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Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, “I don’t like confrontation” when I suggest a boundary.
Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from a pretty healthy family, few people grew up with healthy boundary modeling.
In today’s show, I talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, examples of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries and the four key steps and “how to’s” to set healthy boundaries.
I also discuss what to do when boundaries “backfire” and we are met with being upset or anger from another at our simple request.
I end with a few takeaways of what boundaries are and are not and what to do if you are in a toxic or even abusive relationship.
Boundaries are a necessary part of our lives and a key to healthy relationships. This show is filled with great tools and tips to help you to start better taking care of yourself and learning how to set a simple request and teaching other people how to treat you.

My friend shared your podcast with me last week. Thank you for breaking down our complex thoughts/emotions in a way that is much easier to grasp! I absolutely love the chair analogy. It has helped me so much!

– Christine

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138: Pathway to Self Love

137: End the Drama

136: The Adult Chair Changed my Life: A Conversation with Giovanna

135: The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss

134: Repairing Relationships with our Kids (or Anyone)

133: Ending Triggers

132: Healing Trauma with Courtney Armstrong

131: The Power of Acceptance

130: A Deeper Understanding of The Adult Chair

129: Healing from Abandonment

128: Own Your Reality

127: Codependency: Ending the Addiction to “Help” Others

126: Integrating The Self

125: Healing from Betrayal

124: Conscious Uncoupling: How to End Relationships Well with Katherine Woodward Thomas

123- Helping Your Kids Cope with Anxiety with Sharon Selby

122: How to Stop Stress, Anxiety and Ruminating Thoughts

121: When Relationships End

120: Harness Your Powerful Flow State

119: The Only Way Out Is In

118: Becoming “Aware” with Dr. Dan Siegel

117: The Power of Letting Go with Karen Campion

116: Learn to Live Authentically with guest Sandra Rojo

115: Finding Peace within Pain with Rea Wright

114: Deepening the Adult Chair using the wisdom of the Enneagram with Ramona Reid

113: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

112: Healing Shame

111: Patti Elledge Teaches Us How to Heal Our Attachment Wounds

110: Stopping Stress, Anxiety & Overwhelm from The Adult Chair

109: Breaking Negative Patterns & Programs

108: Stories & Assumptions

107: Men and Emotions with Ted Klontz

106: How to Help Others to Move into Their Adult Chair

105: Essential Oils with Annie Waugh

104: Shannon Thomas talks Narcissism, Gaslighting, and Healing from Hidden Abuse

103: It’s All About YOU!

102: Love Addiction-Love Avoidant with Karen Gelstein

101: Soothing Cannot be Outsourced

100: Self-Love

99: Vulnerability

98: Transforming Triggers

97: DriveTime Download: Healing Trauma

96: DriveTime Download: Clearing Anxiety!

95: Creating Personal Change from The Adult Chair

94: An Astrologer’s View of New Year Transitions with Rachel Lang


93: Drivetime Download: Grief

92: Managing Holiday Gatherings from The Adult Chair

91: What do I do with my Anger?

90: Stay Connected to Yourself and End Overwhelm at the Holidays

89: Feeling Our Feelings with Ramona Reid

88: How to End Suffering

87: Take Responsibility and End the Victim Mentality

86: The Power of Gratitude

85: The Power and the Promise of Journaling!

84: Raising Self-Esteem

83: Building True Connections from The Adult Chair

82: DriveTime Download: Turbulent Times Equals Change is Coming

81: Katie Hendricks Brings Plain Talk on Relationships and Intimacy in The Adult Chair

80: DriveTime Download: How do I Feel My Emotions? A special for Facebook Members!

79: Raising Teens from Your Adult Chair with James Wellborn

78: Meditation, Mindfulness, and Peace with Buddhist Noah Levine

77: Drive Time Download: What do you do with pain?

76: Mindful Eating from The Adult Chair

75: Is Fasting in Your Future? IDM’s Megan Ramos Answers your Ketosis and Fasting Questions!

74: Start your Feng Shui Journey with Tisha Morris

73: The Healing Power of Breath with Michelle D’Avella

72: From the Archives — The New Year, Energy & Inclusion with Ramona Reid

71: The Challenge to Change Black & White Thinking!

70: I Am Not Your Lifejacket! — Ending Codependency in Relationships

69: Gaining Confidence in Relationships with Intimidating People

68: Ending Relationships From our Adult Chair

67: “I don’t do emotions.”

66: The Secret to Truly Helping Others Through Pain

65: How To Connect With Your Inner Child

64: Parenting Teens with the Adult Chair

63: Arielle Ford is Here to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate!

62: Facing Our Relationship with Food, Sugar, and Addiction with Karly Randolph Pitman

61: Building Your Meditation Practice

60: Breaking Patterns

59: Surviving Middle School — Sage Advice from Parenting Expert Michelle Icard

58: Sad, Lonely and Empty

57: Cataloging the results of our Childhood Programming with Lisa Romano

56: What do I do with my Feelings and Emotions?

55: What’s Life Like in the Adult Chair?

54: Narcissism, Codependence, and the Self-Love Deficit with Ross Rosenberg

53: Let’s Talk About Sex

52: Keys to a Successful Relationship

51: Find your Authentic Self at the Heart of Your Enneagram

50: The Art of Surrender

49: Am I a Fraud? Imposter Syndrome & You!

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