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The Michelle Chalfant Show Life from the Adult Chair

71: The Challenge to Change Black & White Thinking!

What is black and white thinking? It’s thinking in extremes and absolutes. We’re for something or against something else, and in between there is nothing. Something is good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, successful, or a failure. Of course, as you’re reading this, you probably think the whole concept sounds ridiculous, and you’re right! But of course, that’s the danger here: many people are unaware that they are black and white thinkers. Why do people do this? Thinking in absolutes helps us to feel safe, that at least in this area,...

67: “I don’t do emotions.”

We all experience emotional pain off and on throughout our lives. Relationships end, people and pets die, jobs end. Pain could be just around the next corner! The problem is that as humans we think that facing pain means putting it away, hiding from it, dealing with pain as we so love to say. We don’t need to deal with our pain, we need to feel our pain and that is where we go wrong. This week on the show we’re talking all about experiencing emotions and I have some tried...

66: The Secret to Truly Helping Others Through Pain

When we are met with a friend or family member in pain — or grief, sadness, really any emotion — our instinct is to console them, to somehow help relieve their discomfort or even fix their pain. Here’s the problem: that doesn’t help. There is way to help others with their pain but it’s not what you’d think. When we demonstrate awareness, love, and willingness to be present in another’s pain, it provides a platform for change, and that’s what we’re going to teach you how to do on the...

65: How To Connect With Your Inner Child

Have you ever found yourself listening to us talking about connecting to our inner child, and wondered, “right, I get it, but how?” We’re going to help you today! The hardest part about doing this inner child work on your own is getting past the awkward feeling, the self-judgment that you’re not doing it right. It will likely feel strange to start, but once you get into the practice, you’ll feel right at home with the practical visualization of actually connecting with your inner child, and get to the peace,...

61: Building Your Meditation Practice

If you’re a regular listener, you know how much I love meditation. While most of us don’t actually have a regular meditation practice, that doesn’t mean a regular practice isn’t something to aspire to. This week on the show, we talk plainly about why meditation can be such an important role in your emotional and physiological health. We have a number of recommendations for apps that can help you get started, suggestions for treating yourself well as you begin to integrate meditation into your life each day, and of course,...

60: Breaking Patterns

Your life is a revolving door. You date the same people. You report to the same bosses. Over and over again, in spite of the effort, you’re making to change your life, you find that you’re stuck in the patterns that have defined you and now you want to get out. This week on the show, we’re talking about those patterns, and how you can take steps to own them, control them, and break them in favor of a new and more empowered YOU. First, you have to learn where they...

58: Sad, Lonely and Empty

We cover our feelings with numbing agents. Food. Alcohol. Work. The drive of our adolescent chair tells us that if we only had something to fill these holes in our lives, we’d be better, so we eat more, drink more, work more. Maybe we get married or have a child, always expecting that this next great thing will heal us. But the holes keep growing, and as soon as we stop for bit, stop covering up, we feel the sadness, loneliness, emptiness that fills us. Today’s conversation comes thanks to the...

56: What do I do with my Feelings and Emotions?

As humans, we feel things deeply. Many of us cope with those feelings — particularly the negative ones — with some sort of numbing agent like food, or booze, or anything to minimize the impact of those feelings in our daily lives. But what do we do with those feelings and emotions get stuck? What do we do when we start to get baked in that shape of grief? This week on the show we’re talking all about the practice of moving with and through our emotions, and share the...

57: Cataloging the Results of our Childhood Programming with Lisa Romano

The baggage we bring with us to adulthood can be stunningly resilient. Relationships with our family, friends, and mentors have a staying power far beyond our conscious memories. Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach who specializes in mentoring adult children of alcoholics who are seeking to move beyond their painful pasts. She is also a bestselling author, radio show host, and speaker. Her latest book “Codependent Now What — It’s not you, it’s your programming” is available now, all of which makes her the perfect guest to join...

The Michelle Chalfant Show Life from the Adult Chair

71: The Challenge to Change Black & White Thinking!

67: “I don’t do emotions.”

66: The Secret to Truly Helping Others Through Pain

65: How To Connect With Your Inner Child

61: Building Your Meditation Practice

60: Breaking Patterns

58: Sad, Lonely and Empty

56: What do I do with my Feelings and Emotions?

57: Cataloging the Results of our Childhood Programming with Lisa Romano

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