Ouch! Did someone call you a control freak?! I get it…been there with that label. We think that we are getting so much done, life feels like it’s in order and things are just, “better” because of how we see and operate in the world. It’s just “who we are.” I had to sit with that one when someone told me years ago that I was a control freak. I contemplated…”It isn’t who I am?” “Who would I be without my control?” Well it scared the crap out of me frankly. After...
How do you feel about anger? What do you do with your anger? Do you shove it down and override it with being “nice” so you “don’t rock the boat”? Many of us grew up with unhealthy anger modeling. Maybe you had a narcissistic and/or angry parent in the home. Perhaps when you had anger in your home, you were told it was unacceptable or even bad. Whatever the case may be, anger is a healthy and much needed emotion. Anger fuels our power and can help us to make decisions and...
After so many requests to talk about jealousy, here it is! A podcast that covers all things jealousy. What it is, what it isn’t and 8 ideas to help you to find balance around jealousy. In today’s show I cover how important it is to raise your awareness around jealousy, how to stay out of story and assumptions, and change your state if you are stuck. I also share client examples of jealousy and how to move beyond it when you feel stuck in jealousy. Lastly, I discuss how control plays into...
Abuse can be tricky, it can be subtle and ease into our lives. We can be living with it and might not even be aware of it. Abuse comes in many forms and not just the obvious physical abuse. Codependency, narcissism, control, trauma, enmeshment, addictions etc. can all play into this dance of abuse. On today’s show, Christine Gutierrez and I have a vulnerable and open discussion about abuse. Christine offers some incredible examples and tools on how to recognize if you are being abused, what you can do about it and the...
When most of us hear the word PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), we think of someone that has come out of the military. While this can be very true for our military personnel, PTSD affects many others and they may not even know. So many suffer from chronic anxiety, depression, insomnia and more, and are unaware that the root issue could be PTSD. This is exactly what happened with me. In today’s show I go through symptoms of PTSD and offer stories and examples of how this may be showing up in your...
I get asked this question all the time, “What do I work on next?” “I realize I have so many things to work on and don’t know where to begin!” In today’s show I offer ideas on what to work on next, what direction to take while on your path of healing, and how to stay in the flow while doing it. Whether it be codependency, anxiety, relationship problems, working with self-esteem or any healing goal you have, there is a way to do this from your Adult Chair and today I...
So many of us live life from The Adolescent Chair. We rush and busy ourselves to the point of exhaustion. We stress ourselves out and wind up living with anxiety, depression and other ailments. We lack presence and feel like if we keep doing we will find our answers and that maybe when we get enough done, our problems will go away, our pain will be erased, and our stress will be gone. What if finding relief was easier than you imagined? There is magic in being that can change your life. When...
Do you ever feel stuck, like you can’t catch a break? Maybe you feel like you keep getting the short end of the stick. Have you ever wondered if your beliefs are creating exactly what you are experiencing? Perhaps limiting beliefs and the filters that you are seeing the world through are attracting in the wrong job, unsuccessful or unhealthy relationships, money issues etc. Limiting beliefs and filters can keep us stuck, disempowered, and make us feel small, in the victim seat. They can even send us down the path of...
I am thrilled to have on the show today, relationship experts and the creators of Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D and Helen Hunt Ph.D! We covered a range of topics from why we fall in love, to how childhood wounding affects our current relationships to what we do if our partner isn’t interested in improving the relationship and so much more. It was a delight to have them on the show and know you won’t want to miss this one. It’s full of life changing and usable...