252 – Find Your Adult and Change Your Relationships

Wow — I was blown away by the response to last week’s episode (#251) with my one and only, Graham Chalfant. It seems like so many could relate to our relationship dynamics and the learning and work we’ve done over the years…and so many of you also asked how we started doing the work and making changes in our relationship. 

In this week’s episode, I’m focusing the conversation back on the self and how we can each choose to show up differently in our relationships from our Adult Chair. We can’t make anyone change, but if we think of relationships as a dance, we can change the way we’re dancing, which gives our partners the opportunity to shift and fall into step with us. This is true for all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones. 

Listen to discover:

• My story of changing the dance in my own marriage 
• How to change the tone of your relationship by doing your own work
• Finding your self-worth and setting boundaries in relationships 
• How to be more open and relational

We all bring our wounds, expectations and “stuff” to a relationship. When we do our work, we not only transform our own lives but we change the tone of our relationships, inviting friends and partners who are a true match for us into a new way of relating to each other. Everything — including strong, connected relationships — starts within!

“If you want to change your relationship with anybody, you’ve gotta change the dance.” – Michelle Chalfant

“We are always attracting in other people based on our unconscious programming.” – Michelle Chalfant

“You’ve gotta see yourself as a very beautiful, precious diamond, and when you can see yourself like that, boundaries become more natural.” – Michelle Chalfant

“When you own your stuff, it sets you free.” – Michelle Chalfant